I am looking at the marriage ads in matrimonial sites, programs and etc just to gain insight. Its not l am looking out for a girl but my friends are. Soon I might also need to jump the bandwagon. One thing is its a multi-million dollar industry and other thing is its going towards wrong notions.
In one popular site, I found the following
“About My Family :
Father-***** Graduate and ****** from ****** MNC
Mother-Housewife
First elder brother - **** employed in USA .
Second elder brother - ** & ****** with engineering firm in Chennai “
This is just an instance. People when they tell about their family they explain so and so child has completed this degree and employed in XYZ company. How does it really tell who the person is ?.
I am quite fathomed why such enormous amount of importance is placed on person’s educational degree and his/her employer’s Fortune 500 standing. Its quite contradictory to Indian values and ethos which, to my extent of knowledge, has placed importance on one’s personality, behaviour and traits. And even the astrology is all about behaviour and traits. Even there one only part is about wealth and career.
This is worse than astrology. Are we so notionized and started placing importance on wrong notions and values. Another ad talks about “She is married to highly qualified management professional”. Which idiot said the management professional can do better at family. I was rather expecting like “She is married to wonderful and caring person”.
When we were blamed that we are career-oriented or money-minded why our elders are placing such importance on degree and employment.
Unless you tell about your family or your traits , the poor indian onsite consultant cant find out anything…things are looking grim.
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Javits // January 25, 2008 at 7:50 pm |
–I was rather expecting like “She is married to wonderful and caring person”.
That was funny! LOL!!
Take it easy, you’ll find one in good time. Oh, I knew this on-site consultant, here in Houston, who quit his Job and went back to India to find himself someone.. he says three months he’ll try to find someone, or simply marry anyone his parents ask him too.
Bindu // April 30, 2008 at 7:58 am |
Yeah, it doesn’t make sense to over-advertise one’s social status.
But at the time of marriage, social status does come into picture. The short listing process goes like this.
1) Is the prospect socially equal.
2) horoscopes matched.
3) family seems to be good.
4) prospect doesn’t seem to have bad behaviours.
5) speaks well and seems to be caring.
The rest is like, kaalai vittu maatiko.