Ok, I was delibating whether to put this post in private or in public. Oh shit, I am in an industry which is entrenched in opensource. I am putting it up in public…damn the privacy.
[ This post is not deriding arranged marriage but rather the customary practices involved in it..So dont post your love marriage option in the comments ]
I am yet another idiot who believed in roots and shoots when you are in new different world. I have changed, so do my generation but what the heck, society (well , I am referring to one down south of Vindhyas) doesnt.
Here is the list of rules for this match making game.
- Nice photos are necessary, if possible do a tummy tuck or skin grafts
- Expectation from the society overrules the expectation from you.
- Be sharp – you may get only once chance to talk/know the prospect before you decide.
- You will be judged by parameters beyond your limits or concern. So you are f@#ked
- Tall, educated and handsome – choose 2
- You are valued not by your golden character but gold and caret.
- Circle of love life should stay within boundaries of caste and creed.
If you find your options are limited, you are wrong , its severely limited. It looks more like blind marriage due to conformance to mindless customs rather than arranged marriage. It not I-hate-parents post but rather sorry for their hesistance to step up and break out the customs and their conformance. Everyone who plays the role wants a change in practices - parents, prospects , pandits ..but none wants to be the first ..we are Indians you know.
Filed under: Paethal | Tagged: arranged marriage, customs, practices, wedding
